If you are like me, you will find yourself picking up on and dwelling on the negative, possibly utterly ignoring any positive.
I had this brought home to me very vividly earlier this week. A group of psychologists, counsellors and psychiatrists had been in touch as they wanted to find out more about BodyTalk. Excellent, I love any opportunity to do that, especially to a group such as this.
Well, the morning came and, just as I was due to leave I found that the puppy had pooed in our bedroom (she’s not meant to go upstairs) so of course I had to deal with that before heading off in a rush a bit later than I’d intended. When I stepped out of the car, dressed in my “getting up to talk” dress, imagine my horror when I and looked down to see that I still had my bright green Birkenstocks on. Definitely NOT the image I wanted to convey. But there was nothing I could do about it, so in I went.
The room was mostly full of smartly dressed women, plus a couple of men in suits. I was due to speak for 15 minutes but in fact, due to the interest and questioning, I found myself on my Birkenstock-clad feet for an hour.
Now, you would perhaps think that I would come out delighted with that. My footwear hadn’t mattered – phew!
The two suits were, quite clearly, bored at best, dismissive or disinterested at worst and that is what my mind focused on. We all want to be liked and I came out feeling utterly dejected.
Later on I was mulling over what strange creatures we are, in that we pick up on and churn over the perceived negatives. Really I should have come bouncing out due to the interest and engagement from other members of the group. When I mentioned this to my lovely neighbour, she passed on this fabulous tip:
at the end of every day, write down 3 positive things that happened to you that day.
What a great piece of advice. I could have made a much longer list than that – far outnumbering the glum faces of the two suits.
So if you are getting bogged down in a swirl of negativity, give it a go. Write down 3 positive things from your day. It might seem difficult at first, as no doubt all the negative stuff will come flooding in, but keep going, hunt around in the memories from your day and drag out 3, just 3, positive things. Let me know how you get on – I’d love to hear.
And of course, if you would like to find out about BodyTalk, just go to my website www.quantumbeing.co.uk – no Birkies in sight…